by Mistress Pam
In the Spring Quarter 1995 issue of
The Essemian Way, a quarterly publication from the Service of
Mankind Church, I read an article by Lady Diane called "Female - Male
Equality." The article stimulated my thinking on the subject, and the
result of that thought process follows:
So much has been written and discussed
about the concept of female supremacy and male/female equality. It seems
to me that often the focus is more on the physical manifestation of the
gender rather than the spiritual aspect of the feminine and masculine
"In strictly humanist terms, men and
women are equal. Individuals of both genders are blessed with varying
degrees of intelligence, emotional sensitivity, and physical prowess;
and, as such, should be granted the respect that these qualities merit."
I totally agree with this idea. There are
varying degrees of ability in individuals, and varying strengths of the
feminine and masculine energies.
"However, in a spiritual sense, women are
superior - and here I don't mean superior in the human sense of being a
better person, This is not a matter of who's better. It's a matter of
This is where my beliefs digress from
those of Lady Diane. I think that in a spiritual sense, the feminine
energy of an individual is superior to the masculine energy. Superior
meaning "higher than" not "better than." Now, in a physical sense, the
masculine energy is FAR more powerful than the feminine energy. I
believe the masculine energy encompasses the physical, instinctive, and
logical aspects, and the feminine encompasses the emotional, intuitive,
and spiritual aspects.
I think that the dynamics of feminine
energy and masculine energy are present in all of us, regardless of
gender... and the feminine energy... the sensitivity, the caring and
nurturing side, the understanding side are a part of our feminine
nature. The physical strength, , the logical thinking, the ability to
maintain emotional detachment, are aspects of our masculine nature. Each
has appropriate situations.
"When female primal energy shapes and
guides male primal energy, the natural divine order ensues and we have
harmony. When male energy is allowed to run rampant and unchecked - as
has happened in the modern world - the natural balance is upset and
If you look at this from the perspective
that if we totally repress the feminine side of ourselves, or if we
repress the masculine side of ourselves, we become ineffective. To
achieve balance, we must manifest and honor both sides. In the "modern
world," the feminine side has been viewed as "weak," as "sissy," as
"ineffective," and the resulting standards have been unbalanced. We must
get back to honoring both the masculine and the feminine energies.
"This does not mean that men cannot have
power. Au contraire. Women desperately need powerful men who will
dedicate that power to the service of mankind through the guiding hand
of a woman who is wise enough to accept and use it as she is divinely
led. I personally have always been enormously attracted to powerful men,
for when they submit to me the energy is formidable."
Here, we step between the fantasy and
ritual of female-dominant play and the reality of the blend of the
feminine and masculine within each of us. In ritual or in play, I very
much enjoy the dynamics of the energy exchange with a powerful
submissive male. I like to relate to his physical, masculine energy as a
counterbalance to my own spiritual, feminine energy. But I also like to
relate my physical, masculine energy to his spiritual, feminine energy.
In an ideal relationship the dynamic of balance - counterbalance between
the masculine and feminine side of myself and my partner would expand
the horizons of our lives.
In ritual, I enjoy the aspect of my
feminine nature dominating and controlling the masculine nature of the
person I'm relating to... an "acting out" of the Goddess requiring
submission from the God. It's a re-enactment of Shakti dominating
Shiva... a control for the enhancement of both. I enjoy the
coessentiality of those kinds of rituals, because by the nature of the
coessentiality, the masculine nature bends to my feminine nature from a
place of choice and strength.
I think that in our society, the female
requires a certain amount of submission from the male... requirements
she can enforce using the power of her femaleness... That dynamic can be
seen in the dating ritual in our culture. Though often, (TOO often),
that power is taken from her when men repress their female energy and
through physical strength force her to submit to them physically. Then,
they think they have male superiority, but there is no balance, there is
no harmony - and chaos DOES reign.